Before anything can change, you need a clear picture of what’s actually happening. In this phase, I help you map the predictable relational pattern you fall into under stress — the triggers, reactions, and protective moves each of you learned long before this relationship. Seeing the pattern as the problem, not each other, immediately lowers defensiveness and gets you back on the same team.

Once the pattern is visible, we begin shifting it. You’ll learn targeted, practical tools to interrupt the old loop in real time — communicating without escalation, holding boundaries with compassion, and staying grounded when conflict shows up. This phase turns insight into action so you can start experiencing relief quickly.

Lasting change happens when new behaviors become your new baseline. In this phase, we reinforce the healthier pattern through repetition, integration, and intentional repair. You’ll build the emotional muscle memory to stay connected, navigate conflict skillfully, and create a relationship that feels collaborative, steady, and resilient.