Direct, structured coaching for individuals and couples who are tired of the same fights, the same distance, the same loops — and ready to actually change them.
Book a Free 15-Minute CallYou're lying awake at 2am wondering if your kids can feel the tension. You're single, watching yourself fall into the same relationship with a different person — again, ugh. You're showing up ok at work but your personal life is in shambles.
Maybe you've tried therapy. It helped for a minute. Then the same patterns came back.
You don't need someone to listen to you vent. You need someone who can see what you can't and help you change it.
Underneath the fights about dishes and bedtimes and money — or the pattern of choosing the same person in a different body — is a cycle you've been running since long before this relationship.
These patterns were smart once. What protected you as a kid is now the thing pushing people away.
Here's what surprises people: you don't need a complete overhaul. A small shift in how you show up — how you respond in the hard moments — can change the whole dynamic. It takes less than you think.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is a direct, action-oriented approach developed by Terry Real that goes beyond traditional talk therapy. Instead of circling the problem, RLT names it — and gives you the tools to change it. I'm a Certified RLT Relational Coach, trained in this framework and committed to it.
We map what's really going on — the patterns and cycles underneath the surface fights. We name them so you can actually see what you're dealing with.
There are parts of you that don't want to change — and you might not even know they're running the show. We go there. This is where most coaching stops. It's where mine starts.
You build the ability to see yourself mid-reaction and choose something different. Real tools. Real practice between sessions.
You learn how to come back — to yourself and to each other. Real accountability, real vulnerability, and the kind of honest conversation most people were never taught how to have.
The relationship becomes a practice — not a problem to be fixed. You don't leave "cured." You leave equipped.
I don't sit quietly and let you vent for an hour. I'm direct — with kindness and respect.
I'm not a therapist. I don't diagnose conditions or prescribe medication.
I don't do this work for you. You get real homework. Change requires practice — not just insight.
I take sides. Not permanently, not unfairly — but I will name what's happening even when it's uncomfortable.
"I came into this not knowing what to expect. If you had told me this would be the result, I wouldn't have believed you."
He came as a last resort. He left a different person — not fixed, but equipped.
"We stopped trying to change each other. That's when everything actually changed."
A couple who'd been stuck in the same fight for years. Four months of practice shifted it.
"I finally understood why I kept picking the same partner in different bodies."
She came in single, thinking the problem was everyone else. The pattern was hers — and she could change it.
"For the first time, I feel like I have an actual toolkit — not just good intentions."
He'd done therapy before. This was the first time he left with something to practice.
"I didn't think a 10% shift would matter. I was wrong."
They weren't sure it was worth trying. One small change made the whole relationship feel different.
"I came into this not knowing what to expect. If you had told me this would be the result, I wouldn't have believed you."
He came as a last resort. He left a different person — not fixed, but equipped.
"We stopped trying to change each other. That's when everything actually changed."
A couple who'd been stuck in the same fight for years. Four months of practice shifted it.
"I finally understood why I kept picking the same partner in different bodies."
She came in single, thinking the problem was everyone else. The pattern was hers — and she could change it.
"For the first time, I feel like I have an actual toolkit — not just good intentions."
He'd done therapy before. This was the first time he left with something to practice.
"I didn't think a 10% shift would matter. I was wrong."
They weren't sure it was worth trying. One small change made the whole relationship feel different.
We meet briefly so you can ask questions and see if this feels like the right fit. No commitment.
This is where we dig in, map what's going on, and build a plan together.
I work with clients virtually and can work across state lines. Sessions are typically weekly or biweekly. This work has a direction and a pace — it's not years on a couch wondering if anything's changing.
Every chapter of this work started with something breaking open in my own life — a health crisis, the loss of my son, and personal relational pain that led me to Relational Life Therapy.
I've led 30-day immersive retreat programs around the world, coached over 250 people one-on-one, and lived through every pattern I now help my clients see in themselves. That's not a pitch. It's just the truth.
What I believe: People are whole. Almost no one was taught how to be in a healthy relationship. That's not a character flaw. It's a skill gap. And skills can be learned.
Certified RLT Relational Coach
Book a free 15-minute call. I'll share how I work, you'll ask your questions, and we'll both know if it's the right fit. No pressure, no pitch.
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